Existential Isolation: Why Is It Higher Among Males?

Existential Isolation: Why Is It Higher Among Males?

Humans are hyper-social. Everything we think, feel, and do is influenced by our social experiences. This is the case even when we are alone as past, current, and future social experiences and culture itself continue to shape us. 

What I am basically saying is there is no cognition, emotion, or action independent of a social component for humans. That might sound like an extreme view, and maybe it is, but I honestly can't imagine an argument that could counter it. 

Now, in the midst of this, many people, perhaps all people, feel to varying degrees as though their subjective experiences are not shared by other people. In their minds what they think, see, feel, is not what other people think, see, feel. This is perhaps best echoed in statements such as "I feel like I am living in a different universe to everyone else."

This is why research on "I-sharing" — sharing a subjective experience with someone else - is so powerful. This work shows that this can improve relationships between members of different racial groups (e.g., less dehumanization and prejudice), and generally increase feelings of closeness with other people. What's remarkable, I think, is that these shared experiences are often seemingly trivial, such as another participant in the study wanting to be a specific animal that you would want to be out of a list of four animals provided. Both want to be a turtle? Well dang, time to feel some social connection.

I-sharing is most powerful among people who feel existential isolation. And current research headed by Peter Helm at the University of Arizona shows that existential isolation tends to be stronger among men than women. But why?

Read the full article from Psychology Today

Published Date: 
06/29/2018 - 10:26